Be bold. Most boys like it very much when a girl takes charge. You should make the first few moves, but make sure he is comfortable with them and with you. Just make sure you're ready for this.
Steps
1. Chat the boy up. Establish a sense of trust between the two of you, perhaps by telling him a secret about you that no one else knows, or just by talking nicely to him.
2. Flirt. Smile a lot, touch your hair, do whatever you think will let him know that you're interested and are happy around him. Hopefully, it will make him more comfortable and want to be around you more often.
3. Break the touch barrier. The first step towards kissing is touching. Make any excuse to touch his arm, his hands, or his face. A lot of guys love holding hands. Hugging is encouraged!
4. Find the right moment. This is something you will feel when you know it's right. Often times this is after a nice evening and it is winding down.
5. Start slow. If he's too shy to make the first move, give him a peck on the cheek and slowly work your way to the lips when you feel the time is right.
6. Afterwards, say nothing and wait for the reaction. If he is surprised (or terrified) take no enemies, and kiss him again. If he is pleased, ditto. If he is angry, then abort the situation- no one would like someone to keep on trying to kiss that person if they're uncomfortable. You should be mature enough to step back. Otherwise, move on to the next step.
7. Pull back and look down, then look into his eyes. If he liked the kiss you'll most likely kiss again.
Tips
* The first few times that you kiss him make sure that it's not in front of a whole bunch of people--especially people that you or he knows. A lot of boys are uncomfortable kissing in front of other people, yet enjoy it in private. Secluded areas are an excellent place to make your move!
* Wear clear lip gloss over a lipstick, but don't be constantly putting it on.
* Don't smoke, and avoid alcoholic drinks. Brush your teeth regularly. Always carry a breath freshener (chewing gum, mints, whatever).
* Don't make a mess out of it. Not the first kiss. It may be unpleasant for some people.
* Make yourself available, but don't attack him. Let him know that you're ready but allow him to go in for the kill.
* Most guys want to kiss you. If you think he wants to kiss you, but just is too shy, go ahead and move in.
Warnings
* Make sure that if all you want to give is a kiss, you make clear that is all you are going to give. Be in control. Set your limits. Think.
* Accept rejection. If you are more mature about it, they may start to like you and change their mind.
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